MyOffloadDownload iOS appA shared task app for couples
Turn a spoken agreement into a task with a clear owner, date, reminder, and place on your shared calendar. Both partners can see what is pending and what is done.
Built for agreed responsibility, not monitoring.
How shared responsibility works
The task should live with the person doing it, not in their partner’s memory.
When you make a plan together
First agree on what needs to happen and who will do it. Then tap the mic and say the task naturally, including the owner and timing.
For example: “Add the annual car service to Ari for Tuesday at 9 AM. The garage number and registration details are in the note.”
After you say it
MyOffload creates the task with its owner, date, time, context, and reminder. It appears on the Shared calendar for you and your partner.
The person who adds the task becomes a watcher, so both people can see the same agreed responsibility without one person remembering it for both.
What full task ownership means
No more asking, “Did you do it?”
The Shared screen shows each agreed task, its owner, its time, and whether it has been completed. Check it when needed instead of asking for another status update.
Personal offloads and private notes stay private unless you deliberately share a task.
See the shared task calendarWhen the task is still pending
The owner receives the scheduled reminder. If a task you added is still pending, tap Nudge instead of rebuilding the whole conversation.
A nudge only works inside an agreement. It should never turn care into surveillance.
Share reminders without naggingTap NudgeMental load is more than chores
In a study of 322 mothers, participants reported carrying more cognitive responsibility than their partners for 29 of the 30 household tasks measured. Cognitive responsibility included anticipating, planning, deciding, and monitoring, not only doing the final action.
This was a self-report study of mothers in different-sex relationships. A separate systematic review of 31 papers found the broader pattern was also linked with emotional distress, lower relationship and life satisfaction, and career disadvantages, but its samples were not representative of every couple. Read the quantitative study and the systematic review.
A healthy boundary
Agreed responsibilities can have an owner, context, reminder, shared status, and a clear finish without repeated verbal follow-up.
MyOffload cannot define fairness, create willingness, or repair broken trust. Couples still need consent, honest ownership, and room to renegotiate.
Simple answers
It gives an agreed task an owner, date, time, useful context, reminder, and visible status in one shared workflow.
Yes. Say the task naturally, name your partner, and include the timing and context. You automatically become a watcher.
Yes. The owner receives the task and reminder, and both partners can see its shared status.
No. Personal offloads and notes stay private unless you intentionally share a task.
No app can create fairness or cooperation. It can make agreed ownership and follow-through clearer and remove some repeated reminder conversations.
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Give agreed tasks an owner, a useful cue, and visible follow-through.
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